I use to have a very close friend, we grew up together, we got to that close sisterly point and I had so much respect and love for our friendship. I travelled out for studies but we spoke a lot on phone. Each time I travel back home she was one of my favourite people to come over to my house. We always had a good time but here's where everything began to go wrong.
She met someone and got into a relationship, I didn't know about it which isn't an issue because at that stage she was trying to know the person more. Time passed I noticed that she wasn't her best anymore. She felt a bit off but I knew she needed someone to talk to. I never asked any questions, I just waited until she felt comfortable to speak about what was bothering her. She finally opened up and it was about the relationship. The person she is dating isn't stable with her, he is so controlling.
Her words:
According to her: he does not call me if I do not call him. He complains when I call him after work hour to say hi and chat with him, he says he is stressed and needs to rest. He never comes to visit, I am always the only one visiting him. He said he can never go and visit any girl. He also doesn't like when I make my hair, he gets angry and says I should make only cornrows or stick to my natural hair. He also has a baby.
Melody speaking: You do not need such a person that does not have your time and value the time you try to share with him. There is obviously not a need for you in his life. You are in a relationship with yourself. If he doesn't see a reason why both of you should speak daily then you are dating yourself and being used. It is a relationship and daily communication is needed to keep things in check, growth, and heart connections. You need to understand what is good for you, people do not give you rules that are degrading to follow. If he doesn't see the need to visit you then you need to stop visiting him. Understand your value and where he placed you and respect yourself.
Her words: I understand, but I just always feel like calling him.
Melody speaking: You need to tell yourself the bitter truth and work on it.
Her words: Ok
The story continues.
During the beginning of the Covid 19 outbreak, I advised her to leave her place of assignment and go back to her family before the total lockdown begins so she will not end up staying alone for a long time. She did that and we continued to speak on daily basis. She informed me that she has decided not to call him since he did not call to check up on her. This was already weeks of him not calling her. Her brother showed me text messages between his sister and her boyfriend expressing these words:
Her boyfriend's text message:
"I do not like your mother, I don't just like that woman.
And she never said anything to defend her mum and rebuke him from such words. I was not pleased by that at all because her mum has treated me kindly and I felt terrible about her letting him speak such words about such a hard-working and caring mum of hers.
Fast-forward.......
One day after some weeks, during the lockdown he called her and she started communicating with him again without us knowing, (she actually doesn't need anyone's permission tho). He convinced her that he was sorry as usual saying he has changed, my friend accepted the apology, and instead of waiting to see the change he claimed to have, she packed her box that same week and travelled to see him during the peak of the Covid 19 period without her mum knowing, she left the house and went to visit him for days without informing her family. They got back from church on a Sunday and she was nowhere to be found. Knowing how close she is to me, the brother called me, I called her but she didn't answer or even reply to my messages for about two days tho she was online. Her brother called me asking me if I have spoken to her, that the mum is going crazy because she isn't picking the mum's calls and her boyfriend is also not picking his calls. They wanted to be sure she is fine.
Note: In the part of Nigeria where her boyfriend stays, you need a boat to cross over and this was during the lockdown.
After some days my friend replied to me and said she was at her boyfriend's place, and that they are back together. I wished her well tho I told her she made wrong moves by going to see him but life is all about doing what makes you happy and so good luck to you.
She got back from his place and everything went back to nothing. He did not call her to check if she arrived home safely. She travelled back to her place of assignment he still did not call her. It took almost two months and he did not call her. She told me that she has made up her mind to move on again and I said well it's always your choice to make. This guy is obviously not interested in you and he is not hiding it. The decision is yours, it is more than a month and a man you went to visit in the midst of the pandemic couldn't call you after a long journey to find out if you made it home or if you even got to your place of assignment safely, well it's up to you to decide. She said I am done this time.
I believed her at this point. She later told me that she dreamt he had another baby, and that she has been suspecting it. She also mentioned that she went to church and was praying and the pastor walked up to her and told her that the person you are praying for isn't what God wants for her. To me, she already got the final message. My heart was calm.
Things went on smoothly, we chatted as usual for almost two months and suddenly I stopped hearing from her regularly again, I was wondering what was going on, we pray together and see movies together online sometimes. I got a bit worried but felt it was her new job which was taking a bit of her time. Not until I found out that she was going for her marriage introduction with this guy.
Here's what happened: He called her and told her he was ready to get married to her, she accepted immediately and informed her people that she was coming for her marriage introduction that same week he called her after not calling her for almost 2 months. I did not know she was already planning her marriage introduction until two days before the introduction. I actually called several times to find out if all was ok with her but she said yes and that she had something to discuss with me which she later opened up that she was going to do a marriage introduction with her boyfriend, the date has been fixed and that I should allow her to make this mistake. I reminded her about what she told me the pastor said and she replied to me saying" please allow me to disobey God and please I need your support. I was actually surprised by her words. I told her I will not be a part of this but I wish her well in her marriage introduction. I also told her that I can not watch her make a wrong life decision that at this point I am tired of the drama and I do not think we should remain friends anymore because she is not totally truthful and involving me in her personal life affects my mental health. She explained herself but after that phone call, I washed my hands wash her life. She went for her marriage introductions and that was the last time I heard from her.
For those reading who do not understand what marriage introduction is, it means taking your husband to be, to your uncles, kinsmen, elders, family, and friends to introduce him to them. After this celebration for your forthcoming marriage, the payment of the bride price will be made and, you fix a date for the wedding.
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As an individual, living in the Covid-19 era with all sorts of issues going on in the world today. Keeping track of your health is very important. There are specific health checking devices that can help you stay updated with your health. These devices help monitor human health frequently, to ensure daily healthy living.
1. Blood Pressure Monitors:
Sphygmomanometer to measure the patient's blood pressure. Technology has advanced and using a blood pressure monitoring device to check your blood pressure has been made easy. There are now automated machines that help measure both systolic and diastolic blood pressure with high accuracy and immediately. These instruments are a must-have to keep track of blood pressure regularly.
2. Thermometers:
This is an instrument used in the measurement of temperature. The normal body temperature is about 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit (°F) or 37 degrees Celsius (°C). The normal temperature often varies from 1° to 2°F (½° to 1°C). Checking your body temperature is important as high temperature can be an arm for a health test or check-up.
3. Pedometers And Weighing Scales:
These devices can help you keep track of your weight. If you want to lose weight or gain weight you need a weighing scale. Some people want to gain weight and find themselves losing weight rapidly, and keeping track of your weight can help you achieve your goal. Your BMI (body mass index) is a measurement that is a ratio of your weight and height. It’s a good way to gauge whether your weight is in healthy proportion to your height.
4. Pulse Oximeters:
Pulse oximetry is a noninvasive method for monitoring a person's oxygen saturation. The purpose of pulse oximetry is to check how well your heart is pumping oxygen through your body. A healthy body should never fall below 95% oxygen saturation, and oximeters can detect changes as small as 1%. This can be a home emergency device to prevent the risk of brain damage, heart failure, and death if oxygen loss is detected fast.
Ministering, monetization through vlogging and blogging as a Christian believer or Church.
As we all know we are in the internet age and our duties as believers are to capitalize on different tools to reach out to people. This is a great way to channel your own inner desire to share God’s message while doing what you love.
Matthew 28:19-20
19 Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:
20 Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.
1 Corinthians 10:31 (New King James Version (NKJV).
As a Christian living in this time, not everyone shows up to the church, and using the recent outbreak of the COVID-19 that placed restrictions on worshiping together as brethren, this brought the realization of the importance of a Christian understanding the use of these tools to preach Gods word including monetization of your platform as a vlogger/blogger.
Some people like to watch videos while some like to read, so this is where the difference between a blog and vlog for ministering alongside monetizing your platform comes in.
Today we are going to be focusing more on blogging than vlogging because this is a very broad topic.
What is a blog?
A blog is an online journal or informational website displaying information.
Who is a vlogger?
A vlogger is somebody who creates and uploads a video blog to pass for informational or learning purposes.
What is the purpose of a Christian blog/vlog?
The main purpose of a Christian blog is to connect you to the relevant audience and content while teaching the word of God. This entails equipping a web page with tools to make the process of writing, posting, linking, and sharing content easier on the internet.
Christian blogging is a way to take the Gospel to the people where they are. More and more people are turning to the online world to find answers and information on a variety of topics – including Jesus Christ! Starting a ministry blog is such a life-changing experience – both for you as a Christian individual, the church as an organization, and for those who come across your content. We are no longer bound by the confines of our church because the Internet makes it possible for us to connect with others literally around the planet.
Black Friday Shopping Experience With Lightinthebox Decorative Christmas Ornaments.
It is another black Friday which officially welcomes us to the holiday shopping for Christmas and new year. There are always late shoppers who happen to benefit from the large black Friday sales. Not everyone believes in the black Friday sales but Lightinthebox is putting a lot of items on sales. I want to especially share with you Christmas items for simple home decoration.
Shopping for the festive season can be a whole lot of stress, meeting up with our dream Christmas decoration can less if when shopping from Lightinthebox. Saving up money for the new year would always be a huge consideration because as the festive season comes, it is full of lots of joy, love, and gifting. Shop affordable Christmas decor items that can transform your home within a second.
Enjoy the festive discount with a free Shipping zone and up to 85% off.
Even though I don't like the cold that comes with autumn and how our body tries to adjust, the beautiful yellow leaves that shine and brighten the streets make it so beautiful, interesting, and picture-worthy. Summer weddings are perfect but also autumn weddings can be a fairy tale. If you are looking to do an autumn wedding, you should consider things before planning a fall wedding.
Prepare properly for the cold weather
Honestly, the cold weather can be discouraging and you don’t want your guests shivering and attending without a coat or umbrella. Send written notes alongside your wedding invitation to remind your guests to dress warm, since there will be outdoor activities. If you have some options for outdoor seating, ensure you have provided blankets to ensure guests can fully enjoy your surroundings and special day with you.
Location
Autumn is a season that brings along the countryside or rural vibe, which makes it even more astonishing. When picking your wedding location for an autumn wedding, think of woodland, forest, country, outdoor restaurants, riverside with massive leaf pour, and barn wedding locations. Autumn trees and leaves make the perfect backdrop for your wedding photographs.
Experimenting with colors is so much fun. All brown combination never looked so good. Such a lovely chocolate look. This is a trend I will like to try. It looks super classy and simple.
How to wear all brown outfit
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